Discerners are not only highly aware of the struggles of others, they are all too often hyper-aware of their own struggles. Because of this, they judge themselves waaaay too harshly.
The introspective behavior of discerners cause them to feel as if they are the odd man out. They often wonder why they see things different from most people. They feel like misfits, outcasts, weirdos even. But if you are a discerner rest assured that you are ultra-precious to God. You are the voice for those who have yet to find their own voices as they navigate through the culture of Christianity. You in someways are the mouthpiece for the voiceless.
In thinking about this, you have to know that as a discerner, you are designed a little differently from everyone else. You really don't want to talk to everyone about everything, because some of your discernment is so precious, heavy, complex, pure, and personal that it can't be shared. Your ability to assess these types of things help you to keep your mouth closed when you need to. That's a wonderful attribute to have.
Your internal struggles with your own shortcomings are not a curse from God where he's trying to show you how bad you are. Oh, no my friend. You have a divinely ordained giftedness that causes you to be sensible and analytical about your own issues and the issues of others. Your discernment has been key in helping you to understand others. Now, let God use this gift of yours to help you understand yourself.
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